- last year this time was my big 60 birthday
- papa hubby had been looking forward to this date
- since the day I turned 59 as he liked the fact
- that we would be in the same decade--LOL
- both in our sixties- this only happened for a year
- and a bit as he was nearly 9 years older than me
- but of course - last year was our cancer journey
- and his plans had to go on hold........
- but papa was not one to be defeated by cancer
- when he made plans he made plans --
- = so he talked to the pastor
- and with ease- convinced the pastor to have
- a cake at the church for me----the pastor had
- to tell me a few days ahead of time as there
- was no guarantee that papa would have the strength
- to go to church that day---so it was decided that
- I would go----with out him and Miss Ashley would
- stay with papa-----but papa hubby was determined
- to go and so Bonnie and I took him but late so that
- he would have enough strength ---to last an hour or two-
- we took him there with great care- and parked as
- close to the front door we could so he did not have
- to walk one step more than was needed-
- he was very weak by then and taking a small step
- was hard work ........
- we got there and the deacons were waiting for him
- and me and they helped him into the sanctuary
- and because the pastor knew papa and I had
- to come late to conserve his energy
- he gave papa hubby a nice welcome as
- papa had not been able to go since April
- our church is small enough to do that
- and every one knew papa hubby and his journey-
- after the service we had cake in the main foyer
- and we put papa hubby on a chair
- everyone came to see him and shake his hand
- he was so blessed
- and it was a ''good bye'' time for him
- and his friends
- yes, it was my birthday and we ate cake too
- but the day was really a honoring of David
- we knew that there would be no more
- Sunday outings for him as he could
- barely walk- and sitting required too much
- energy
- and he got to see his two daughters in church
- as the Ashley invited them too
- and we all stood there around papa hubby
- some one bought me flowers to add
- to papa's special cake
- it was a nice time and not long
- as we/they knew papa was too weak
- we brought him home and
- he was so tired but happy
- happy to give me a surprise and
- happy to see his friends again
- happy that his plans happened-
- we both knew it was his last time
- we knew that he could not walk much longer
- his legs were like stove pipes( that is what the doctors call them
- and his tummy
- make him look pregnant as his body grew a water blister
- around his cancer thinking to protect it from
- the foreign body-(cancer does this to some patients)
- also
- he was going through
- his chemo side effects but God gave him the strength
- to go one more time -
- looking back is bittersweet - but with thanksgiving
- it is a birthday I will always remember-
- his family all together and his church friends
- shaking his hand and hugs and kisses
- and praying for him and with him
- it was a wonderful moment in time
- that will always be in my heart
- so that is my birthday story
- and now today is another birthday
- a new year for me...
- and I am learning to live with out papa David
- to celebrate the moments-
- to count my blessings and
- not the candles-
- and to share the memories
- that I hold in my heart.
- hugs from Meme
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
A BIRTHDAY STORY
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I wish you many more birthdays, Meme. May each of them bring you more joy and less sorrow in the memories, and blessings to you and your family.
Hugs,
messymimi
What a blessed gift to have that one last time in church with Papa. Memories of loved ones and family gathered around both of you.
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